01UndatedYou yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affectionSharon Salzberg / quote ↗
02UndatedYou can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.Sharon Salzberg / quote ↗
03UndatedIf you’re reading these words, perhaps it’s because something has kicked open the door for you, and you’re ready to embrace change. It isn’t enough to appreciate change from afar, or only in the abstract, or as something that can happen to other people but not to you. We need to create change for ourselves, in a workable way, as part of our everyday lives.Sharon Salzberg / quote ↗
05UndatedSeeking happiness is not the problem. The problem is that we often do not know where and how to find genuine happiness and so make the mistakes that cause suffering for ourselves & others.Sharon Salzberg / quote ↗
06UndatedWhen you recognize and reflect on even one good thing about yourself, you are building a bridge to a place of kindness and caring.Sharon Salzberg / quote ↗
08UndatedClinging to our ideas of perfection isolates us from life and is a barrier.Sharon Salzberg / quote ↗
09UndatedFor any marginalized group to change the story that society tells about them takes courage and perseverance.Sharon Salzberg / quote ↗
10UndatedThe idea that traumatic residues—or unresolved stories—can be inherited is groundbreaking.Sharon Salzberg / quote ↗
11UndatedThe unconscious mind is a vast repository of experiences and associations that sorts things out much faster than the slow-moving conscious mind.Sharon Salzberg / quote ↗
12UndatedThe practice of sympathetic joy is rooted in inner development. It’s not a matter of learning techniques to “make friends and influence people.” Instead, we build the foundations of our own happiness. When our own cup is full, we more easily share it with others.Sharon Salzberg / quote ↗
13UndatedSometimes people in abusive situations think they’re responsible for the other person’s happiness or that they’re going to fix them and make them feel better. The practice of equanimity teaches that it’s not all up to you to make someone else happy.Sharon Salzberg / quote ↗
14UndatedBuddhism has a term for the happiness we feel at someone else’s success or good fortune. Sympathetic joy, as it is known, invites us to celebrate for others.Sharon Salzberg / quote ↗
15UndatedEven as we recognize our resentment, bitterness, or jealousy, we can also honor our own wish to be happy, to feel free.Sharon Salzberg / quote ↗
16UndatedThe more we identify and acknowledge moments when we’re unable to share in someone else’s pleasure and ask ourselves whether another person’s happiness truly jeopardizes our own, the more we pave the way for experiencing sympathetic joySharon Salzberg / quote ↗
17UndatedThe more we practice sympathetic joy, the more we come to realize that the happiness we share with others is inseparable from our own happiness.Sharon Salzberg / quote ↗
18UndatedIt is awareness of both our shared pain and our longing for happiness that links us to other people and helps us to turn toward them with compassion.Sharon Salzberg / quote ↗
19UndatedThe difference between a life laced through with frustration and one sustained by happiness depends on whether it is motivated by self-hatred or by real love for oneself.Sharon Salzberg / quote ↗
20UndatedWhen we can step back even briefly from our hurt, sorrow, and anger, when we put our faith in the possibility of change, we create the possibility for non-judgmental inquiry that aims for healing rather than victory.Sharon Salzberg / quote ↗
21UndatedIt is never too late to turn on the light. Your ability to break an unhealthy habit or turn off an old tape doesn't depend on how long it has been running; a shift in perspective doesn't depend on how long you've held on to the old view. When you flip the switch in that attic, it doesn't matter whether its been dark for ten minutes, ten years or ten decades. The light still illuminates the room and banishes the murkiness, letting you see the things you couldn't see before.Its never too late to take a moment to look.Sharon Salzberg / quote ↗
22UndatedWe are all too often told by someone that we are too old, too young, too different, too much the same, and those comments can be devastating.Sharon Salzberg / quote ↗
23UndatedMindfulness helps us get better at seeing the difference between what’s happening and the stories we tell ourselves about what’s happening, stories that get in the way of direct experience. Often such stories treat a fleeting state of mind as if it were our entire and permanent self.Sharon Salzberg / quote ↗
24UndatedMindfulness, also called wise attention, helps us see what we’re adding to our experiences, not only during meditation sessions but also elsewhere.Sharon Salzberg / quote ↗