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We all say we hate being misunderstood and how we desperately want to find people who understand us. But it is not lack of compatible people that keeps us lonely. There is no shortage of people on your journey. The real, secret obstacle that we have against finding authentic, genuine relationships with people is our subconscious fear of growth. If we stick around in the bin of broken toys playing the queen or the king, at least we get to feel some sense of accomplishment at being the most evolved person we know. To find our tribe means finding people we can learn from, people who are better at some things than we are, people who have something to teach. We say we want it, but how many of us fear being a beginner more than loneliness and much more than being in the wrong crowd? There is a strange comfort, a sense of safety, to suffering and loneliness. To be happy, to find our family, we must be willing to let that go.
We all say we hate being misunderstood and how we desperately want to find people who understand us. But it is not lack of compatible people that keeps us lonely. There is no shortage of people on your journey. The real, secret obstacle that we have against finding authentic, genuine relationships with people is our subconscious fear of growth. If we stick around in the bin of broken toys playing the queen or the king, at least we get to feel some sense of accomplishment at being the most evolved person we know. To find our tribe means finding people we can learn from, people who are better at some things than we are, people who have something to teach. We say we want it, but how many of us fear being a beginner more than loneliness and much more than being in the wrong crowd? There is a strange comfort, a sense of safety, to suffering and loneliness. To be happy, to find our family, we must be willing to let that go.
Approximate author period: c. 2013 AD · contemporary
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- Vironika Tugaleva
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- Approximate author period: c. 2013 AD · contemporary
Approximate historical context for attribution to Vironika Tugaleva, based on documented writing activity in 2013. The Love Mindset is attributed to Vironika Tugaleva; the author page records its Readers Favorite self-help award in 2013. An already-published book in 2013 supports author activity, not a date for every quotation. Source: Books — original author website, https://www.vironika.org/books/ (checked 2026-10-09). This does not establish the composition date or authenticate the attribution of these words. Source: https://www.vironika.org/books/ (accessed 2026-10-09).
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