01UndatedPerfection is something we should all strive for. It's a duty and a joy to perfect one's nature... The most difficult thing is love. A loveless, driving person that just competes in the rat race is far from perfection in my book.R.D. Laing / quote ↗
02UndatedLife is a sexually transmitted disease and the mortality rate is one hundred percent.R.D. Laing / quote ↗
03UndatedWe live in a moment of history where change is so speeded up that we begin to see the present only when it is already disappearing.R.D. Laing / quote ↗
04UndatedPain in this life is not avoidable, but the pain we create avoiding pain is avoidable.R.D. Laing / quote ↗
05UndatedWhat we call 'normal' is a product of repression, denial, splitting, projection, introjection and other forms of destructive action on experience.R.D. Laing / quote ↗
06UndatedThe term schizoid refers to an individual the totality of whose experience is split in two main ways: in the first place, there is a rent in his relation with his world and, in the second, there is a disruption of his relation with himself. Such a person is not able to experience himself 'together with' others or 'at home in' the world, but, on the contrary, he experiences himself in despairing aloneness and isolation; moreover, he does not experience himself as a complete person but rather as 'split' in various ways, perhaps as a mind more or less tenuously linked to a body, as two or more selves, and so on.R.D. Laing / quote ↗
07UndatedSanity today appears to rest very largely on a capacity to adapt to the external world—the interpersonal world, and the realm of human collectivities.As this external human world is almost completely and totally estranged from the inner, any personal direct awareness of the inner world already has graveR.D. Laing / quote ↗
08UndatedYou don't love me.. Believe me! You don't love anyone. How could you? And no one loves you. How could they? Except me, it's only because I love you that I'm telling you all this. I Love you.. R. D. Laing.R.D. Laing / quote ↗
09UndatedAttempts to wake before our time are often punished, especially by those who love us most. Because they, bless them, are asleep. They think anyone who wakes up, or who, still asleep, realizes that what is taken to be real is a ‘dream’ is going crazy.R.D. Laing / quote ↗
10UndatedIf I could turn you on, if I could drive you out of your wretched mind, if I could tell you I would let you know.R.D. Laing / quote ↗
11UndatedWe are effectively destroying ourselves by violence masquerading as love.R.D. Laing / quote ↗
13UndatedMadness need not be all breakdown. It may also be break-through. It is potential liberation and renewal as well as enslavement and existential death.R.D. Laing / quote ↗
14UndatedUnder the heading of "defense mechanisms,” psychoanalysis describes a number of ways in which a person becomes alienated from himself. For example, repression, denial, splitting, projection, introjection. These "mechanisms" are often described in psychoanalytic terms as themselves "unconscious,” that is, the person himself appears to be unaware that he is doing this to himself. Even when a person develops sufficient insight to see that "splitting", for example, is going on, he usually experiences this splitting as indeed a mechanism, an impersonal process, so to speak, which has taken over and which he can observe but cannot control or stop. There is thus some phenomenological validity in referring to such "defenses" by the term "mechanism.” But we must not stop there. They have this mechanical quality because the person as he experiences himself is dissociated from them. He appears to himself and to others to suffer from them. They seem to be processes he undergoes, and as such he experiences himself as a patient, with a particular psychopathology. But this is so only from the perspective of his own alienated experience. As he becomes de-alienated he is able first of all to become aware of them, if he has not already done so, and then to take the second, even more crucial, step of progressively realizing that these are things he does or has done to himself. Process becomes converted back to praxis, the patient becomes an agent.R.D. Laing / quote ↗
15UndatedThey are playing a game. They are playing at not playing a game. If I show them I see they are, I shall break the rules and they will punish me. I must play their game, of not seeing I see the gameR.D. Laing / quote ↗
16UndatedWhen family relations are no longer harmonious we have filial children and devoted parents.R.D. Laing / quote ↗
17UndatedEach time a new baby is born there is a possibility of reprieve. Each child is a new being a potential prophet a new spiritual prince a new spark of light precipitated into the outer darkness.R.D. Laing / quote ↗
18UndatedSchizophrenic behaviour is a special strategy that a person invents in order to live in an unlivable situation.R.D. Laing / quote ↗
20UndatedChildren do not give up their innate imagination, curiosity, dreaminess easily. You have to love them to get them to do that.R.D. Laing / quote ↗
21UndatedThe range of what we think and do is limited by what we fail to notice. And because we fail to notice that we fail to notice, there is little we can do to change; until we notice how failing to notice shapes our thoughts and deeds.R.D. Laing / quote ↗
22UndatedWe are all murderers and prostitutes - no matter to what culture, society, class, nation one belongs, no matter how normal, moral, or mature, one takes oneself to be.R.D. Laing / quote ↗