01c. 1972 ADI miss him in so many ways, but right now I miss him in the way you always miss someone when you're single among a room full of couples.Emily Giffin / quote ↗
02c. 1972 AD...love is the sum of our choices, the strength of our commitments, the ties that bind us together.Emily Giffin / quote ↗
03c. 1972 ADI miss us too. I always have and I probably always will. Sometimes there are no happy endings. No matter what, I'll be losing something, someone. But maybe that's what it all comes down to. Love, not as a surge of passion, but as a choice to commit to something, someone, no matter what obstacles or temptations stand in the way. And maybe making that choice again and again, day in and day out, year after year,says more about love than never having a choice to make at all.Emily Giffin / quote ↗
04c. 1972 ADI love him wholly and unconditionally and without reservation. I love him enough to sacrifice a friendship. I love him enough to accept my own happiness and use it, in turn, to make him happy back.Emily Giffin / quote ↗
05c. 1972 ADBut I have learned that you make your own happiness, that part of going for what you want means losing something else. And when the stakes are high, the losses can be that much greater.Emily Giffin / quote ↗
06c. 1972 ADLove and friendship. They are what make us who we are, and what can change us, if we let them.Emily Giffin / quote ↗
07c. 1972 ADSongs and smells will bring you back to a moment in time more than anything else. It's amazing how much can be conjured with a few notes of a song or a solitary whiff of a room. A song you didn't even pay attention to at the time, a place that you didn't even know had a particular smell. I wonder what will someday bring back Dex and our few months together. Maybe the sound of Dido's voice. Maybe the scent of the Aveda shampoo I've been using all summer.Emily Giffin / quote ↗
08c. 1972 ADLife's not black-and-white. Sometimes the ends justifies the means.Emily Giffin / quote ↗
09c. 1972 ADHis words are like the sound of a needle dragging across a record. A sinking, sickening feeling washes over me. This is why you should never, ever get your hopes up. This is why you should see the glass as half empty. So, when the whole things spills, you aren't as devastated.Emily Giffin / quote ↗
10c. 1972 ADWe are one of those couples i used to watch, thinking to myself that I'd never be on the inside of something so special. I remember reassuring myself that it probably looked nicer than it actually was, I am happy to be wrong about that.Emily Giffin / quote ↗
11c. 1972 ADWhat every girl dreams of when she's dumped is - that the guy will someday feel regrest and come back and tell her all about it. And the beauty of it is you have no regrets whatsoever.Emily Giffin / quote ↗
12c. 1972 ADYou see yourself as very average, ordinary. And there is nothing ordinary about you, Rachel." (Something Borrowed)Emily Giffin / quote ↗
13c. 1972 ADI think of how life takes unexpected twists and turns, sometimes through sheer happenstance, sometimes through calculated decisions. In the end, it can all be called fate, but to me, it is more a matter of faith.Emily Giffin / quote ↗
15c. 1972 ADI think of how each person in a marriage owes it to the other to find individual happiness, even in a shared life. That this is the only way to grow together, instead of apart.Emily Giffin / quote ↗
16c. 1972 ADI still think I love him more. It's one of those things you never know for certain because there's no way to enter all the relationship data in a computer and have it spit out a definitive answer. You can't quantify love, and if you try, you wind up focusing on misleading factors.Emily Giffin / quote ↗
17c. 1972 ADI was aware that we were both silently making those inevitable comparisons, putting our relationship in context. She is more this and less that. He is better or worse in these ways. It is human nature to do this--unless its your first relationship, which might be the very reason that your first relationship feels special and remains forever sacred. But the older you get, the more cynical you become, and the more complicated and convoluted the exercise is. You begin to realize that nothing is perfect, that there are trade-offs and sacrifices. The worst is when someone in your past trumps the person in the present, and you think to yourself: if I'd known this, then maybe I wouldn't have let him go.Emily Giffin / quote ↗
18c. 1972 ADI spend the rest of the afternoon trying to explain to Zoe one of the very saddest notions in love and life: sometimes the timing is wrong--and sometimes you realize the heart of the matter way to late in the game.Emily Giffin / quote ↗
19c. 1972 ADDespite the fact that I have no regrets about how things turned out in my life, I still can't help wanting to understand my intense relationship with Leo, as well as that turbulent time between adolescence and adulthood when everything feels raw and invigorating and scary-and why those feelings are all coming back to me now.Emily Giffin / quote ↗
20c. 1972 ADI decided that giving a girl a ring when you're not in a serious relationship is sort of like giving a guy a blow job when you have no real feelings for him. It makes everything feel a little cheap.It cheapens the giver and the recipient.Emily Giffin / quote ↗
22c. 1972 ADBut I have learned that you can't just create your own timetable and will it to come true.Emily Giffin / quote ↗
24c. 1972 ADAnd like a favorite old movie, sometimes the sameness in a friend is what you like the most about her.Emily Giffin / quote ↗
