proverb · Words worth keeping
Who depends upon another man's table often dines late.
Who depends upon another man's table often dines late.
Understand the thought
Meaning in plain English
Relying on someone else’s provision can leave you waiting on their timing. The borrowed table highlights dependence in an arrangement, without making receiving help shameful or assuming that independence is always possible.
Example
A community group relying on a borrowed printer confirms when it will be available and arranges an alternative collection time if the owner’s schedule changes.
Deeper explanation and when to use it
The diner depends on a meal controlled by another person and may have little say in when it arrives. Figuratively, the saying can describe a task or need tied to someone else’s schedule, priorities or resources. It may encourage a clearer agreement or a workable alternative where one is available. It should not become an accusation against a person who needs support, nor does it establish that the provider intends to neglect them. A fair response considers the actual obligations on both sides, asks for useful information and looks for ways to reduce uncertainty without pretending that everyone can supply every need alone.
When to use it
Use it when dependence on another person’s provision creates uncertainty about timing.
Keep in mind
Needing support is not a fault; consider fair obligations and realistic alternatives rather than shaming dependence.
An interpretation of the words, not a claim about their earliest origin.
Attribution & collection notes
- Author or tradition
- Traditional
Attribution: traditional - Country attributed
- Not established
A country attribution does not establish the earliest origin. - Historical period
- Date unknown
- Culture
- English