proverb · Words worth keeping
'Tis the second blow that makes a fray.
'Tis the second blow that makes a fray.
Understand the thought
Meaning in plain English
Retaliation can turn an initial wrong into an ongoing fight. The second blow pictures the point at which answering harm may extend the conflict.
Example
After an insult, someone ends the exchange and sets a boundary instead of answering with another insult that prolongs it.
Deeper explanation and when to use it
The saying draws attention to a response that makes violence reciprocal. It can encourage considering whether a reply will stop the harm or continue it. It must not erase the responsibility of the person who struck first, or imply that someone may never protect themselves. A careful reading distinguishes retaliation from a proportionate effort to reach safety and prevent further injury. The metaphor can also apply to exchanges of insults.
When to use it
Use it to examine a retaliatory response that could escalate conflict.
Keep in mind
The first aggressor remains responsible, and avoiding retaliation does not require accepting harm.
An interpretation of the words, not a claim about their earliest origin.
Attribution & collection notes
- Author or tradition
- Traditional
Attribution: traditional - Country attributed
- Not established
A country attribution does not establish the earliest origin. - Historical period
- Date unknown
- Culture
- English