01UndatedIt’s like when you’re excited about a girl and you see a couple holding hands, and you feel so happy for them. And other times you see the same couple, and they make you so mad. And all you want is to feel happy for them because you know that if you do, then it means you’re happy, too.Stephen Chbosky / quote ↗
02UndatedI asked Patrick if he felt sad that he had to keep it a secret, and Patrick just said that he wasn't sad because at least now, Brad doesn't have to get drunk or stoned to make love.Stephen Chbosky / quote ↗
04UndatedAnd all the books you've read have been read by other people. And all the songs you've loved have been heard by other people. And that girl that's pretty to you is pretty to other people. and that if you looked at these facts when you were happy, you would feel great because you are describing 'unity.Stephen Chbosky / quote ↗
05UndatedDear Friend, I'm sorry I haven't written to you in a couple of weeks, but I have been trying to 'participate' like Bill said.Stephen Chbosky / quote ↗
06UndatedI think he was especially happy because I used to kiss this boy in the neighborhood a lot when I wasvery little, and even though the psychiatrist said it was very natural for little boys and girls to explorethings like that, I think my father was afraid anyway. I guess that's natural, but I'm not sure why.Stephen Chbosky / quote ↗
07UndatedI think it's nice for stars to do interviews to make us think they are just like us, but to tell you the truth, I get the feeling that it's all a big lie. The problem is I don't know who's lying.Stephen Chbosky / quote ↗
08UndatedIt's great that you can listen and be a shoulder to someone, but what about when someone doesn't need a shoulder? What if they need the arms or something like that? You can't just sit there and put everybody's lives ahead of yours and think that counts as love. You just can't. You have to do things.Stephen Chbosky / quote ↗
10UndatedI just think it's bad when a boy looks at a girl and thinks that the way he sees her is better than she actually is. And I think it's bad when the most honest way a boy can look at a girl is through a camera.Stephen Chbosky / quote ↗
11UndatedDo you enjoy holidays with your family? I don't mean your mom and dad family, but your uncle and aunt and cousin family? Personally, I do. There are several reasons for this. First, I am very interested and fascinated by how everyone loves each other, but no one really likes each other. Second, the fights are always the same.Stephen Chbosky / quote ↗
12UndatedMy grandfather was crying. The kind of quiet that is quiet and a secret. The kind of crying that only I noticed. I thought about him going into my mom's room when she was little and hitting my mom and holding up her report card and saying that her bad grades would never happen again. And I think now that maybe he meant my older brother. Or my sister. Or me. That he would make sure that he was the one to work in a mill. I don't know if that's good or bad. I don't know if it's better to have your kids be happy and not go to college. I don't know if it's better to be close with your daughter or make sure she has a better life than you do. I just don't know.Stephen Chbosky / quote ↗
13UndatedBut in that moment when my brother took the field, all that washed away, and everyone was proud... I looked up at my dad, and he was smiling. I looked at my mom, and she was smiling even though she was nervous about my brother getting hurt, which was strange because it was a VCR tape of an old game, and she knew he didn't get hurt.Stephen Chbosky / quote ↗
14UndatedThen, I started running. And everything was as good as it could be.Stephen Chbosky / quote ↗
15UndatedSam looked at me soft. And she hugged me. And I closed my eyes because I wanted to know nothing but her arms.Stephen Chbosky / quote ↗
17UndatedThen the movie started. It was in a foreign language and had subtitles, which was fun because I had never read a movie before.Stephen Chbosky / quote ↗
18UndatedI wanted to laugh. Or maybe get mad. Or maybe shrug at how strange everyone was, especially me.Stephen Chbosky / quote ↗
19UndatedWhen you think back to your first kiss, your hair is perfect and she was wearing a cool outfit. We remember it with restraint and we remember it with style. We remember it as idealistically as you can think.Stephen Chbosky / quote ↗
20UndatedWell, I think that part of being young is not exactly knowing why you do some of the things that you do. And it's by exploring your life or experimenting or making mistakes and learning from them hopefully that you start to forge an identity.Stephen Chbosky / quote ↗
21UndatedIf you are in a movie theater, you can look two people down and they are laughing while you are laughing or you can look three people down and they love that song that you love. It is living proof that you are not alone.Stephen Chbosky / quote ↗