01c. 1977 ADSometimes people who seem good end up being not as good as you might have hoped, you know?Jonathan Safran Foer / quote ↗
02c. 1977 ADMy dream went all the way back to the beginning. The rain rose into the clouds, and the animals descended the ramp.Jonathan Safran Foer / quote ↗
03c. 1977 ADNothing goes away. Not on its own. You deal with it, or it deals with you.Jonathan Safran Foer / quote ↗
04c. 1977 ADNo father knows that he is carrying his son up the stairs for the final timeJonathan Safran Foer / quote ↗
05c. 1977 ADWhy do beautiful songs make you sad?' 'Because they aren't true.' 'Never?' 'Nothing is beautiful and true.Jonathan Safran Foer / quote ↗
06c. 1977 ADBut I knew the truth and that's why I was so sad. Every moment before this one depends on this one. Everything in the history of the world can be proven wrong in one moment.Jonathan Safran Foer / quote ↗
07c. 1977 ADAND IF WE ARE TO STRIVE FOR A BETTER FUTURE, MUSTN'T WE BE FAMILIAR AND RECONCILED WITH OUR PAST?Jonathan Safran Foer / quote ↗
08c. 1977 ADI went to my grandmother, your great-great-grandmother, and asked her to write a letter. She was my mother's mother. Your father's mother's mother's mother. I hardly knew her. I didn't have any interest in knowing her. I have no need for the past, I thought, like a child. I did not consider that the past might have a need for me.What kind of letter? my grandmother asked.I told her to write whatever she wanted to write.You want a letter from me? she asked.I told her yes.Oh, God bless you, she said.The letter she gave me was sixty-seven pages long. It was the story of her life. She made my request into her own. Listen to me.Jonathan Safran Foer / quote ↗
10c. 1977 ADNot in all ways (of course), but the animals you know have power: they have abilities humans lack, could be dangerous, could bring life, mean things that mean things.Jonathan Safran Foer / quote ↗
11c. 1977 ADHow many times, in those first weeks, did he enter the room and stand by the door, unable to speak? How many times did she ask, "Do you need anything?"And he would say, "No."And she would say "Are you sure?"And he would say, "Yes," but think, Ask again.And she would say, "I know," but think, Come to me.And he would say , "Ask again."And she would say, "Come to me."And saying nothing, he would.There they would be, side by side, her hand on his thigh, his head resting on her chest. If they had been teenagers, it would have looked like the beginning of love, but they'd been married for twenty years, and it was the exhumation of love.Jonathan Safran Foer / quote ↗
12c. 1977 ADLet's go to bed. Those four words differentiate a marriage from every other kind of relationship. We aren't going to find a way to agree, but let's go to bed. Not because we want to, but because we have to. We hate each other right now, but let's go to bed. It's the only one we have. Let's go to our sides, but the sides of the same bed. Let's retreat into ourselves, but together. How many conversations had ended with those four words? How many fights?Jonathan Safran Foer / quote ↗
13c. 1977 ADI remembered my mother's speech at my wedding. "In sickness and in sickness. That is what I wish for you. Don't seek or expect miracles. There are no miracles. Not anymore. And there are no cures for the hurt that hurts most. There is only the medicine of believing each other's pain, and being present for it." Who will believe my pain? Who will be present for it?Jonathan Safran Foer / quote ↗
14c. 1977 ADIn sickness and in sickness. That is what I wish for you. Don't seek or expect miracles. There are no miracles. Not anymore. And there are no cures for the hurt that hurts most. There is only the medicine of believing each other's pain, and being present for it.Jonathan Safran Foer / quote ↗
15c. 1977 ADSo many days in their shared life. So many experiences. How had they managed to spend the previous sixteen years unlearning each other? How had all the presence summed to disappearance?Jonathan Safran Foer / quote ↗
17c. 1977 ADIf we communicated with something like music, we would never be misunderstood, because there is nothing in music to understand...... But until we find this new way of speaking, until we can find a nonapproximate vocabulary, nonsense words are the best thing we've got. Ifactifice is one such word.Jonathan Safran Foer / quote ↗
18c. 1977 ADI am not sad, he would repeat to himself over and over, I am not sad. As if he might one day convince himself. Or fool himself. Or convince others—the only thing worse than being sad is for others to know that you are sad. I am not sad. I am not sad. Because his life had unlimited potential for happiness, insofar as it was an empty white room. He would fall asleep with his heart at the foot of his bed, like some domesticated animal that was no part of him at all. And each morning he would wake with it again in the cupboard of his rib cage, having become a little heavier, a little weaker, but still pumping. And by the midafternoon he was again overcome with the desire to be somewhere else, someone else, someone else somewhere else. I am not sad.Jonathan Safran Foer / quote ↗
19c. 1977 ADOne day you will do things for me that you hate. That is what it means to be family.Jonathan Safran Foer / quote ↗
20c. 1977 ADMother is a humble woman. Very, very humble. She toils at a small café one hour distance from our home. She presents food and drink to customers there, and says to me, "I mount the autobus for an hour to work all day doing things I hate. You want to know why? It is for you, Alexi-stop-spleening-me! One day you will do things for me that you hate. That is what it means to be a family." What she does not clutch is that I already do things for her that I hate. I listen to her when she talks to me. I resist complaining about my pygmy allowance. And did I mention that I do not spleen her nearly so much as I desire to? But I do not do these things because we are a family. I do them because they are common decencies. That is an idiom that the hero taught me. I do them because I am not a big fucking asshole. That is another idiom that the hero taught me.Jonathan Safran Foer / quote ↗
21c. 1977 ADIf I’d been someone else in a different world I’d've done something different, but I was myself and the world was the world, so I was silent.Jonathan Safran Foer / quote ↗
22c. 1977 ADAs we drove, I imagined we were standing still and the world was coming toward us.Jonathan Safran Foer / quote ↗
23c. 1977 ADThis is the sixty-nine," I told him, presenting the magazine in front of him. I put my fingers -- two of them -- on the action, so that he would not overlook it. "Why is it dubbed sixty-nine?" he asked, because he is a person hot on fire with curiosity. "It was invented in 1969. My friend Gregory knows a friend of the nephew of the inventor." "What did people do before 1969?" "Merely blowjobs and masticating box, but never in chorus.Jonathan Safran Foer / quote ↗
24c. 1977 ADFrom space, astronauts can see people making love as a tiny speck of light. Not light, exactly, but a glow that could be mistaken for light--a coital radiance that takes generations to pour like honey through the darkness to the astronaut's eyes.In about one and a half centuries--after the lovers who made the glow will have long been laid permanently on their backs--metropolises will be seen from space. They will glow all year. Smaller cities will also be seen, but with great difficulty. Shtetls will be virtually impossible to spot. Individual couples, invisible.The glow is born from the sum of thousands of loves: newlyweds and teenagers who spark like lighters out of butane, pairs of men who burn fast and bright, pairs of women who illuminate for hours with soft multiple glows, orgies like rock and flint toys sold at festivals, couples trying unsuccessfully to have children who burn their frustrated image on the continent like the bloom a bright light leaves on the eye after you turn away frJonathan Safran Foer / quote ↗