01UndatedThere are two ways of thinking. One is living life based on fear. The other is trusting. Letting go and allowing trust to control our lives takes mental gymnastics.David W. Earle / quote ↗
02UndatedIt is very difficult to develop a proper sense of self-esteem in a dysfunctional family. Having very little self-worth, looking at one’s own character defects becomes so overwhelming there is no room for inward focus. People so afflicted think: “I need to keep you from knowing me. I have already rejected me, but if you knew how flawed I am, you would also reject me…and since this is all I have, I could not stand any more rejection. I am not worthy of someone understanding me so you will not get the chance...so I must judge, reject, attack, and/or find fault with you. I don’t accept me so how can I accept you?David W. Earle / quote ↗
03UndatedPeople build defenses around a weakness, not around strength. Where self-esteem is strong, a defense is unnecessary.David W. Earle / quote ↗
04UndatedWhen this low self-worth is hidden, one can understand why the person becomes hypersensitive to the opinions of others and has a great deal of difficulty accepting criticism no matter how warranted or gently said.David W. Earle / quote ↗
05UndatedWhen one person attempts to “fix it” for the other person, the connection of acceptance is snapped and the sender and receiver miss an opportunity for understanding.David W. Earle / quote ↗
06UndatedWhen I looked at myself through the prism of awareness, great tears came as I connected with how this wounded child felt.David W. Earle / quote ↗
07UndatedWe violated each other’s boundaries with verbal missiles of anger disguised in the pretense of “just kidding.David W. Earle / quote ↗
08UndatedThis is what we desire in intimate relationships but this deep connection is often so frightful that most do not take advantage of the opportunities presented for honesty.David W. Earle / quote ↗
09UndatedWounded parents often unintentionally inflict pain and suffering on their children and these childhood wounds causes a laundry list of maladaptive behaviors commonly called codependency. These habits restrict people to love-limiting relationships causing much unhappiness and distress.David W. Earle / quote ↗
10UndatedOur parents were our first gods. If parents are loving, nurturing, and kind, this becomes the child’s definition of the creator. If parents were controlling, angry, and manipulative, then this becomes their definition.David W. Earle / quote ↗
11UndatedPeople pay a dear price when not dealing with the powerful emotions.David W. Earle / quote ↗
13UndatedIf one wants to be loved and return it full score dagger of silence closes the door.David W. Earle / quote ↗
14UndatedFor many years, I searched for this connection outside of myself but always to no avail. It was only when I turned inward did I find this power.David W. Earle / quote ↗
15UndatedI, like you, was not depraved or defected before birth but created to be magnificent, a wonderful and freeing realization - simple but explosive.David W. Earle / quote ↗
16UndatedWe can be safe and live with other defined truths exemplified by a capital “T” or we can change and with our limited time experience truth with a small “t,” seeking our own understanding, which can change with new awareness.David W. Earle / quote ↗
18UndatedTo be free to roam our own consciousness and be responsible for ourselves, a letting go process is required. We have to let go of how others define us; what damaging messages remain from childhood; how others define our relationship with the creator; and what expectations they may have for us.David W. Earle / quote ↗
19UndatedFor example, I can doubt that 2 + 2 = 4; however, my doubting does not change the equation. When I test out that formula and find that it is true, then that becomes my reality. How can anything become real until it is tested in the crucible of doubt?David W. Earle / quote ↗
20UndatedWhen life beats us down, we often do not feel worthwhile to ourselves nor to anyone else. Often, we try to hide our feelings of inadequacy in pursuit of perfection, which develops into self-loathing. If only we can be perfect, then we can be okay.David W. Earle / quote ↗
22UndatedOften self-love is replaced with self- loathing, compounded by beating ourselves up. We become experts at putting ourselves down, judging ourselves, and finding fault. This creates deep shame that says “I am a mistake” instead of saying “I made a mistake.David W. Earle / quote ↗
23UndatedThis woman’s size protected herfrom the hurts of the worldbut it also imprisoned her soul. As the merry-go-round revolved, she ate another French fry,as a silent scream frozen on her face.David W. Earle / quote ↗
24UndatedA spiritual hell I lived in … hating the God of love and knowing the god I served … hated me!David W. Earle / quote ↗
